Twirling in the Wind
Here’s my shout-out to you, Jackie, I know you’re reading this!
I often try to figure out how to be the best me I can be. Over analyzing myself can lead to negative thoughts where as noticing the traits in others I admire help me find out what I want to be better at.
This last week, I went on a cruise with my family and a family we met on our last cruise. We met Jackie and Larry because we had kids of similar age and ended up forming a relationship with them very easily. I was trying to figure out how we so easily became friends with them when I realized that the ease of it all was what made them such a likeable couple.
Jackie is one of the most self-confident and easy-going people I have met, and this is what drew me to her. These are also traits that I strive for. I used to pride myself on these two traits, but I find it harder and harder these days and I’m not exactly sure why. I think a lot of it is symptomatic of my disease; anxiety and depression come easily for me now which both make it harder to go with the flow.
The other thing I think is important to strive for is acceptance. It is hard to accept things in life that don’t turn out how you expect them to, feel unfair, and are not comfortable for you. Accepting life as it comes at you and making the best of it is something necessary to be truly happy. One way to do this is to practice taking every moment as it comes without worrying about a past or possible future moment.
I found one of these moments on our vacation. It was a day we spent doing a lot of walking, which can be very hard for kids. As the kids get unhappier, so do the adults. As we were walking up a hill to explore an old fort in San Juan, I started to feel the breeze off the ocean. There was a large grassy patch, and the breeze made the sun turn from hot to just right. I put my arms out and started twirling around in circles. My daughter asked what I was doing, and I told her I was twirling in the wind. Both of my kids joined me, and before you knew it, everyone was laughing and happy again.
These moments when I am able to be in the moment and act child-like are what ground me and make me confident. The wind, the sun, movement, and love are all things that I experienced in that moment, and all my worries were gone. This is where I want to be always. Twirling in the wind.
I challenge you to find your moment today.
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